One of my clients, an African American male asked me an interesting question the other day: “WHY IS IT THAT IN THE U. ESPECIALLY, YOU DON’T OFTEN FIND AFRICAN WOMEN WHO MARRY OUTSIDE THEIR CULTURE, ESPECIALLY TO BLACK AMERICAN MALES?
…”African American men do not often ask African women out.
A couple of girls felt that the African Americans tend to think that they are superior to Africans, showing less respect for them than the Caucasians who are more open to learning about different cultures.
Well, this is one of those testy topics that I am sure you will either agree with or think of as ‘utterly senseless’, but the truth is that since Dunia Magazine provides the platform for cross cultural discussions, I thought to ‘lay it out on the table’.
By confronting and discussing these things, we may actually begin to break the ice …
that I am sure you agree often exists between Africans and African Americans.
Earlier this year, I believe in January, a client walked into my office, his name JD (I am sure he is going to read this article).
It was stated that those who do ask African women out are not usually looking for serious long term relationships and African ‘sistas’ out here in the diaspora are often very much aware of their ticking biological clocks; they have no time to waste playing around.
Fundamental cultural differences serve as a huge divide between both groups; they do not share the same values for the most part.
Most folks “tend to be comfortable with the culture they can identify with”, Anthony said.
For the record, JD is an African American male and I am an African female.
He was a first time client, so we began to chit chat as I worked on his papers.