He's not a dating expert, nor an advice columnist, psychologist or relationship therapist.
My researchers approached this project the same way we had others.
First, Beth reviewed the literature and research we had on file.
With this in mind, I reviewed our interviews with men and women who were planning to marry and videos of two focus groups we had run with single men.
We then broadened the study by surveying and then running focus groups of single men who at that time had no intention of getting married.
At first, we had young single men do the interviews, but so many of the interviewees gave macho answers that we doubted their reliability.
In fact, we threw out the entire study and started again.
RELATED: 4 signs a man is ready for marriage — and 4 signs he's not The second time we tried teams composed of men and women, but that produced mainly politically correct answers, which we also questioned.
RELATED: Couples married more than 50 years give secrets on how to make love last She said, "You reinforce the myth that the reason men don't commit is that the women in their lives do something wrong. In most cases, it's the man in a relationship who decides he isn't ready or doesn't want to get married, and he makes this decision without any help from the woman.
After telling Beth that more than three hundred women had worked with me on the marriage research and not one had made the comment she just offered, I apologized. My interviews with single men had shown there were men who would not commit.