And you’re not going to find them on some dating website. I’m not belittling the troubles that you’ve been through and the challenges you’ve faced.
So here are some of the cardinal sins of online dating that may very well be the reason why your online dating life isn’t going as well as it could be. You don’t have any pictures of yourself One of the biggest (and most baffling) mistakes that I see guys make on dating websites is to start approaching women without a picture of themselves on their profile. At the end of the day, even if you are interacting virtually, people still want to feel like they’re talking to an actual person.
Take a moment to think about this: would you ever go out in real life and try to meet women with a paper bag over your head? And it’s always nice to know if you’re even slightly physically attracted to each other from the get go. If you have the means to create an online dating profile you surely have a way to at least snap a selfie of yourself and upload it. You have a bland profile description Here’s the thing; online dating is kind of like marketing.
You have to start off assuming that people don’t give a damn.
It’s your job to make what little they see of you on your profile interesting enough to intrigue them to want know more.
So if all you have on your profile is your age, height and a boring blurb about how you’re an “easy going person who doesn’t take life too seriously” you really should start re-thinking your strategy.
Your profile is probably going to get a couple of minutes of attention at most, so make sure you have something strong enough to hook a woman’s attention within that time span. You’re coming across as bitter, angry or depressed OK, here’s a reality check.
It’s very, very rare that you’re going to come across a stranger who genuinely cares about the problems in your life.
Everyone you know (and their parents, and quite possibly grandparents) is on some online dating site or the other.
So you’ve decided that it’s time you put on your cyber-social boots and jumped into the fray, too.
You’ve gathered your courage and your finest one-liners and signed up for one or more dating websites.
And a couple of months and a few hundred ignored messages later you’re all but ready to give up. Online dating isn’t really harder or easier than “real life” dating; it’s just different.