Men who cheat haven't fallen out of love; they've become unsatisfied with the current state of it.
"My first husband cheated on me with a childhood friend," says Diane* from New York City.
"His family was close to her family, so they never lost touch." Intimacy expert Mary Jo Rapini explains, "A lot of women think that all cheating women are floozies—not true.
The relationships are usually friendships first." In fact, more than 60% of affairs start at work, according to Focus on the Family.
A good idea: Make sure your husband feels more connected to you than to his business partner.
"Spouses go to work, take care of their kids and do separate things at night. She suggests always going to bed at the same time and cuddling. "Men love their spouses, but they don't know how to fix their relationship problems, so they go outside their marriages to fill any holes," says licensed marriage and family therapist Susan Mandel, Ph D.
Men want it all and have the skewed notion that another woman will make the longing for something more disappear.Then, they can live happily ever after with their wife—and their mistress—without confronting the real issues. You may think of cheaters as men without morals, but while they may like what they did, they tend to despise themselves after their indiscretions. Here, experts explain this phenomenon and dispel other popular cheating myths. They're largely satisfied with all they have and aren't looking for a way out, yet they still find themselves in bed with other women—and in hot water with their wives. According to a Rutgers University study, 56% of men who have affairs claim to be happy in their marriages.Fact #1: Most men are still in love with their wives when they cheat.