To clarify, this is not a former coworker from Townsquare Media. Anyway, this topic led Madi and I on a discussion about online dating in general. That’s a bushel of mistakes waiting to happen.) What weird online dating stories do you have?
One listener told us we should try Bumble because there are hotter men on there (so of course we had to give it a spin, because we love hot men), another said we need to avoid matching with guys whose eyes you can’t see (her friend went on a coffee date with a guy with photos like that, and he had a drifting eye…that can definitely be awkward if you’re not expecting that! Have you ever matched with a coworker or former coworker on Tinder? Play back our Facebook live stream about online dating below!
Matching with a co-worker on Tinder: it happened to Mollie last week with a former co-worker, and she and Madi are discussing it right now. Tell us your story in the comments or shoot us a private message!
Dear John, I’m dating “Edie,” who is a wonderful woman, but very much under her parents’ control.
The relationship is somewhat unorthodox: They want to be her “friends” and they insist that she spend most weekend evenings with them.
Edie, who lives on her own, has never been able to develop friendships outside of her immediate family circle.
We have both spoken to her mother on different occasions and she says, “I just want to invite you to all of these things but I understand if you can’t come.” Her mom will start calling her on Monday about events for the coming weekend and not stop calling until Edie has agreed to whatever plans she has made.
My bottom line is that I want us to spend less time with her folks. Dear Paul, From what you write, it does not seem that the normal separation that develops between parent and adult child has occurred here.
Edie feels the same way, but feels guilty leaving them alone. Since you have your heart set on a relationship, you would be wise to have Edie agree to some ground rules before you ever get to the point of saying, “I do.” First off, you need an agreement as to how often in the month you will socially engage her parents.
Once a week or five times a week can make a big difference in allowing a relationship to have the needed space to grow on its own.
Also, Edie should honor a request that your relationship issues are never discussed outside your relationship.
The last thing you want is for her parents to become mediators between the two of you every time you have a disagreement.
In discussing all this with Edie you need to take great care to explain that this is not an ultimatum.
In fact, you are seeking an understanding on how the two of you will deal with possible intrusions into the privacy of your relationship by her parents.