But we do not live in an ideal world and many people fall for alcoholics.
It can be very hard, especially at the beginning of a relationship,to leave someone you really care for, even love because he/she has a drinking problem.
It is easy to kid yourself and say that it is just a phase they are going through and that they will stop drinking. The active alcoholic will never stop drinking unless he or she wants to, no matter how much they profess their love to you.
You start to wonder whether your date has a drinking problem or worse, is an alcoholic. It is better to know before you get too involved, whether your prospective partner is drink dependent. If you think that you may be dating an alcoholic then there are certain signs that you can look for in their behavior. Yes, in an ideal world you would say thank you but no thank you.
These signs do not necessarily mean your dating an alcoholic but they are indicators that he/she most definitely has a problem with drinking and may well be alcohol dependent. Getting involved with an alcoholic will always end in tears.
Because the alcoholic already has a date and his or her name is alcohol.
And, unfortunately for you, alcohol is THE ONE AND ONLY for the alcoholic. Alcohol will always be the priority of the active alcoholic.
These are behaviors that you will not accept from your date.
Tell your date what you expect from him/her (in a moment of sobriety) and the consequences if the behavior is not followed. But if you want something better for yourself then I would say to you, bite the bullet and get out while you can.
It is very important that you do not enable your alcoholic boyfriend or girlfriend. However, if the alcoholic in question says they want help then by all means stand by them, but it won't be an easy journey.
You’ve met someone you really like, they are intelligent and charming.
The first few dates go well; you meet for a drink, get drunk, talk as if you’ve known each other a lifetime, laugh at each others jokes and everything seems to be going just fine.