Gurit Birnbaum, a psychologist at the Interdisciplinary Center in Herzliya, who led the study.
Careful how far you take this, guys, but Israeli-led research indicates it might not be a good idea to be “nice” on your first date.
Women, on the other hand, appear to benefit from being nice.
For what it’s worth, the research indicates women are looking for “man-like” behavior early in dating. It points to tendencies among members of a specific group — university students — and the results are possible trends, not absolute predictors.
In the small, limited series of studies, single men tended to prefer single women who were more responsive to their needs and wishes in an initial conversation, finding them more feminine.
Many of the women, on the other hand, didn’t really care how responsive the men were.
The psychologists behind the study say women may be looking at behaviors other than responsiveness to determine men’s masculinity and fitness as partners.
Or, they say, women may interpret men’s responsiveness in a range of gendered ways — to the extent that it’s even possible to generalize about the tendencies of either men or women.
“Women may see responsive men as more masculine, less masculine, or neither,” said Prof.
To understand why, the psychologists ran one observational and two experimental sub-studies testing the desirability of opposite-sex responsiveness to single, heterosexual Israeli university students.
Experimental studies allow researchers to determine cause and effect.
In the first study, 56 pairs of men and women talked face to face about a problem in one of their lives.