Bad conversation starters: “Hey,” “Hi,” “What’s up? Remember that we just barely met, even if we’ve been e-communicating for — gasp — two weeks.” A “hey” only gets a “hey” response in return, which gets us nowhere. If you don’t have our number yet, it’s OK to ask for it. While the online experience is not necessarily new, we all still feel weird about joining in.
An initial introduction to dislikes puts off a negative vibe. A blank profile or a profile that only mentions the kind of person you want to find or tells us that you’re not like all the “other guys” gives us little to go on. We know you have it, but Ashlee commented, “Don’t try to be funny. It’s OK to ask for our number and then call to ask us out. Let us know exactly what we’ll be doing and where we’ll meet.
Don’t give the classic “message me if you want to find out more” line. You generally come off as insensitive.” And as Rachel said, “If you think you are funny or snarky and that is a major part of your personality, then maybe it would be appropriate to have a joke profile. We are used to being asked out through text, but a phone call gives you bonus points. Let us know if you'll be paying (a simple "my treat" or “I’d like to take you out to dinner” rather than “let’s meet up for some dinner”) suffices. You can find advice from a million dating websites on how to talk, have fun, show your good side and be authentic.
But while those may make me laugh when I see them, I’m always wary of a profile that doesn’t offer any substantial information.” Call us old-fashioned, but we expect you’ll be the first to contact us. A smile or a “like” that the singles sites create doth not a conversation make. And a number makes it easier to confirm date details. Keep your hands and face to yourself, even if you feel like we have a lot in common.
Yet entering the world of online dating can be confusing and downright scary. Consider this from one of your potential matches, Rachel: “Selfies — shudder — come off as desperate, shallow and prideful.
Among young single adults who are members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, the use seems to be rising as free, no-contract services become more available.
According to the Pew Research Center, 38 percent of Americans who are single and actively looking for a partner have used online dating services.
For all those YSA men out there, here's some advice on how to enter the online dating world or improve your online dating experience, based on many conversations I've had with my like-minded female YSA friends. If this is who you really are, then feel free to include them, and if you really are desperate, shallow and prideful, you won’t care about being perceived that way.” If you really don’t have any friends who can help, grandmas are really good at taking pictures with phones these days. Unanimous approval on this one from the kinds of LDS women you’re hoping to attract.
As Lissa said, “If you are seriously looking for a relationship, avoid any pictures with your shirt off, where you’re doing any kind of pout or duck face, or that are taken in the bathroom mirror.
No self-respecting girl wants to show that photo to her future grandchildren. ‘This is the picture that made me fall in love with Grandpa. ’ No.)” On non-LDS-specific sites or apps, either add LDS, Mormon or BYU (if you’re a fan) into your profile.